What is a two-week wait?
Blood was drawn, ovaries were evaluated, HCG trigger shot injected and uterus was inseminated. Everything was done. Now what?
Now the dreadful two-week wait begins. How do you keep yourself from getting crazy during this time?
Two-week wait is the period from the insemination to the scheduled pregnancy test or when your time comes. This two-week wait is I think the hardest part of fertility treatment.
Having to experience the struggle of dealing with two-week wait is horrible. I have been through 3 IUIs and three two-week waits. All of them were not fun at all. My first one was the most dreadful because I didn’t have a plan. I almost drove myself to the brink of insanity. So during our second one, I knew better.
I learned my lesson well so this time I had a plan. I made a list of things to do to keep my mind busy. The key to surviving two-week wait is by Distraction. Keeping yourself busy during this time will make the two-week wait go by fast.
Keeping busy will decrease your anxiety and stress. But off course, the thought of two-week wait will still linger and will pop up once in a while, but at least you are not obsessing over it.
Having a full-time job does contribute to the distraction, but I can only work so much. I needed a distraction the rest of the 24 hour day period. So I made a list of things to do in conjunction with work. It’s either I do it before work or after work and on the weekends.
Going through fertility treatment can make us forget about ourselves. Between lab works, ultrasound appointments, and doctor appointments, we could hardly find time for ourselves. The two-week wait is the time when you take advantage of the two-week wait, get your hair done, get your mani/Pedi or even get a massage.
Pampering yourself will not only de-stress you but also keep your mind occupied. It will decrease anxiety.
Shopping can be therapeutic. According to the Huffington Post, about one-third of all Americans use retail therapy to relieve stress. However, this should not be an excuse to splurge and to tap into your fertility fund.
You should shop wisely. List 10 things that you want. Then narrow it down based on need. Shrink your list more based on affordability. You should be able to come up with 1 or 2 things that you can buy for yourself.
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If you don’t want to spend money, then just go window shopping. Window shopping itself is therapeutic.
Clean up your closet
Schedule a day to go through your closet and organize. If you are lucky, you can get this all done in one day. If you feel motivated and in cleaning mode, then you can clean and organize your whole house. Depending on how organized your house is, you can spend a day or two on it.
According to Mayo Clinic, Meditation can wipe away the day’s stress, bringing with it inner peace. It can be as simple as staying still and taking a deep breath, or it can be fancy such as guided meditation, tai-chi or yoga.
I just do simple meditation. I just find a comfortable position, close my eyes and focus on breathing, inhale as much as I can then slowly exhaling. You can do this for as long as your want, but I usually do it for 1 to 2 mins. You can do this as many times as you can throughout the day. If you have the Apple watch, they have a new app called Breath App, which can help you pause and focus on your breathing.
If you have the Apple Watch, they have a new app called Breath App, which can help you pause and focus on your breathing. What it does is it alerts you when it’s time to do your breathing exercise. The exercise can be set to one minute to five minutes. It coaches you throughout the session through a visual guide, and it monitors your heart rate as well.
Pretty good way to take a break from the stress of the day.
Teach your dog new tricks
If you have a dog, take this time to spend more time with him/her. Teach him new tricks which you can practice every day.
I have a Maltese-Shihtzu mix dog whom I adore and love so much. He is very sweet and loves to cuddle. I took this time to teach him how to beg which we practice every day. Here he is with his new trick.
Read a Book
Reading books has a significant number of benefits, and one of them is stress relieving. Aside from gaining knowledge, it can also provide mental stimulation.
When we started this journey, I wanted to increase my understanding of infertility. I wanted to know how other fertility-challenged couples are dealing with infertility.
So, I started reading Anchored Hope. It is a devotional book full of encouragement and inspiration. With this, I was able to distract myself and learn at the same time.
You can check out these good inspirational books on infertility that I found.
I do not have to tell you this but praying should be an integral part of our lives. We may question God why is He letting us deal with infertility but believe me, He has greater plans for you.
God would not give you problems your cannot handle. Do not just pray that you will get pregnant but also pray for strength, encouragement, and wisdom. Praying will make you understand what you are going through and develop a closer relationship with God.
Write a Journal
According to Dr. James Pennebaker, the author of Writing to Heal, expressive writing is the route to healing. His research showed an improved immune function in participants in writing exercises.
Writing a journal is not the typical “Dear Diary” on a beautiful notebook. People nowadays go for online journaling or blogging. They publish their personal thoughts, ideas, and daily living activities on the world wide web.
I created WishfulMom to document our fertility journey. It allows me to express my thoughts and share my experience with other hopeful moms out there. WishfulMom became my creative outlet.
Blogging pretty much took up all the two-week wait time. I think blogging is a creative and productive way to deal with the two-week wait.
You can check out my post on How to Start a Blog if you don’t have one.
See a Movie
If you are like me who has gone multiple fertility treatments, you understand that seeing a movie seems to be a thing of the past or a luxury.
Since we started this journey, we haven’t gone to the movies. Between lab works and doctor’s appointments on top of our full-time job, we just couldn’t find the time.
During the two-week wait, there will be no or just a few visits to the clinic. It will give you time to check out a good movie with your hubby. Make it a date night!
Hang out with Friends
Hanging out with friends brings up a sense of belonging. Being socially active will boost your spirit. The laughing and sharing of stories will relieve your stress and raise your endorphins level. Overall, it will help in improving your sense of well-being.
You do not have to tell them about your situation if you are not comfortable. You can just hang out and have fun.
There are a lot of things you can do to survive the two-week wait. However, whatever you decide to do, do not let the anxiety of two-week wait take over you.